Tuesday, June 30, 2015


It's hard for me to even fathom this, but today my eldest grandchild turns thirteen.

In two weeks I'll have two grandchildren who are teenagers. And I wonder what that makes me?  Old, I guess. After all, I felt old when my children turned thirteen. Now my grandchildren are teens. What an impossible circumstance that is.

It really is more than the mind can wrap itself around, this whole business of age and time. I remember my mother saying "...but I feel the same as I did when I was twenty....". I didn't understand that then, but I do now. It's always a shock to catch sight of oneself in a reflective surface, like walking along Main Street and seeing yourself in a store window. I think we must mentally brace ourselves for it when we look in the mirror, but when it takes us by surprise, well, in my case I usually wonder who that is looking back at me. It takes a moment for the mind to grasp it all. Here I am, all of twenty-five, walking down the street (looking pretty good), and suddenly there is this old lady with a double chin and wearing clothes two sizes larger than she should be......it's all quite surreal.

But... today is Daisy's day, and I digress. Daisy is becoming a beautiful, tall, elegant young lady right before my eyes. In her I see my own mortality because I know I may not live to see her as a grown woman herself, maybe with a family, a career, or most likely both. But I do see glimpses of her future glory and it warms my heart no end. The only thing better than watching your children grow into wonderful. kind, smart, generous, talented adults is watching your grandchildren do it. And right now I can see the future...

Monday, June 29, 2015


Yesterday was yet another overcast day and there was no sun to be seen. At all. A dark weekend at best.

I can't say I mind the cool temperatures, although it is difficult to plan well. We went to a local restaurant for lunch after church and although I had long sleeves on I found myself freezing to death under the air conditioning vent. I couldn't wait to get back outside where the air was a bit warmer. Just as its hard to know how to dress in this weather, the restaurants don't know how to set their thermostats. And I get it.

Today holds more promise though as they are saying sun shine and warm air will prevail. After a few days of gray I'm rather looking forward to that. Now, if the humidity will just stay away...

Sunday, June 28, 2015


I've been lazy enough lately to be blogging on my iPad and I'm not sure its a good idea. Even though I feel as though I proof every time, I find more silly spelling errors later which are caused by the crazy "spellcheck" feature on that iPad.

The same thing happens to me if I'm away from the house and need to send an email on my cell phone in response to one that comes in and needs attention asap. The spellcheck feature on my phone also makes the most ridiculous corrections and I'm constantly reminding myself to go back and check...and recheck...or things go out with sometimes nonsensical sentences that even I can't always decipher. It's annoying at best.

Today I'm sitting at my regular desktop computer, where I can see quite clearly (without a magnifying glass!) and type more easily. So let's see if I make any mistakes here. If so, perhaps its time to stop blaming my gadgets and start looking at myself....

Saturday, June 27, 2015


Well after a beautiful week of sun shine and low humidity, we are under the clouds today and I have to say it's downright chilly! I had to change into a flannel shirt at noon just to be comfortable!

Not only has the weather taken a turn for the worst, but the traffic is markedly different all of a sudden. Driving home from Southampton was horrible at 11:00 this morning. And for the first time this season I had to wait for a long line of traffic to pass in order to turn left into my driveway. I don't mind the wait so much,but other clearly do. As soon as anyone comes up behind me sitting there they pass me on the right, tearing up the village green and leaving a muddy mess there by the time July comes to a close. Are people really in so much of a hurry that they need to shave 30 seconds off their travel time? I have a hard time imagining that. But it's a sure sign that civility and calm is over for the time being and chaos is taking over until Labor Day. I am bracing myself.

It's not easy living in a resort town. But I suppose it's worth the price.

Friday, June 26, 2015


Looks like we're in for a rainy weekend, but I don't really mind. We need the rain and my bushes will be happy!

This has been a full week and the calmer days will be welcome. One of my grandchildren graduated from pre-school and the older ones have finished out their year. Of the ten grandchildren, on,y three will still be pre-schoolers next year. I'm not quite sure where the time has gone, but it seems as though I was just celebrating my youngest going off to school for the first time, and soon my oldest will turn forty! Sheesh! I thought I was still forty, no?

There are life passages happening at a pretty steady pace these days, with two grandchildren becoming teenagers, a nephew getting married, babies turning into toddlers. It never stops, does it?

Life truly is a big circle....

Thursday, June 25, 2015


Yesterday was a really gorgeous day here in Bonac and today has a lot to live up to. I'm not sure it can match what we've already had, but hopefully it will come close. These are the perfect days of the season, when the humidity is low but the sun shines brightly-no one could ask for more.

School is still in session here but these are the last couple days. No doubt the kids are ready to be done, not to mention the teachers. No one likes being stuck inside on days like these when the world is bright and warm and beckons us outside. It's a little bit like torture for kids-I remember it well!

Once this week is over it will officially be summer for the youngest of our town, and all the fun is ahead. It's so much better to be at the beginning than at the end, those waning days of the season when sadness creeps in and we know it will soon be over.

Yes-we are joyful now as we set forth on the adventures of summer. Here's to a great one.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015


So today is one of those picture perfect days we all live for here on the East End.the sky is a glorious blue with barely a cloud in sight, there is a gentle breeze blowing to keep things comfortable, and all seems right with the world. And so it turned out to be a perfect day for a ride across the water to Southold.

I had a luncheon to attend and so a carload of us headed across first the south ferry, traversing Shelter Island in all its summer glory, and then on the north ferry to the restaurant where the event was held. And it was a perfect spot for a lunch meeting: right on the bay side, practically over the water, in a cute little local place with both indoor and outdoor seating. It simply couldn't have been a nicer day. And it's not over yet. Soon we'll head out for a Little League game, then to a nice dinner together, and home for a good night's sleep.

Heaven will have a hard time comparing....

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Flying by

If the rest of the summer flies by as quickly as June has we'll be getting ready for Christmas in no time at all. Wow - what a whirlwind this has been! Between Little League games and end-of-school programs, having company in the house, and our usual lives, this has been one busy time. Of course losing 10 days in May when I was traveling hasn't helped my sense of keeping up with the schedule, but my gosh I hardly remember a time when so many weeks seemingly disappeared from my life in the blink of an eye.

I know I wasn't quite as conscious of time when I was younger so I'm convinced its an old age thing. As we begin to see our lives coming to a close, we are much more aware of how quickly the days go by. Not that I'm planning my demise any time soon. but when you are in your sixties and you know most people never get beyond their eighties, its much different than being in your twenties when you can see your whole like ahead of you with no end in sight. We are all on borrowed time, after all.

I feel time slipping between my fingers, but I don't begrudge the fact that I have an expiration date. After all, this is life and there's never been any other way. But I don't like it when the days seem t go by so fast I've barely had time to appreciate them. I want to slow down a little more and smell those flowers....

Monday, June 22, 2015

Late again

Once again time has gotten away from me and suddenly I remembered - I haven't blogged in a couple days! Clearly having company in the house is throwing off my rhythm. Or is it Alzheimer's? I wish I knew.

We had heavy downpours Saturday night into Sunday morning but the sun came out in time for us to have a Father's Day cook-out on the back deck. Summer is great for outdoor entertaining but rain can be an issue. If only we could schedule it at our convenience. Like the one summer a few years back when it rained every night but never during the day. Now that's perfect summer weather!

Well hopefully I'm back on track now and won't forget to post this week. Surely some bits of wisdom will come to me. Or not. At least musings will. And they take no wisdom at all.

Here's to a week of good weather and a sharp mind!

Friday, June 19, 2015


We finally had to break down and hire some painters to do the trim and porch on the outside of out house this year. They started this week and are making amazing progress.

This is an odd thing for us. We have traditionally done all our own work around the house and therefore every project takes forever. Shoehorned in between work and other obligations, do-it-yourself projects seem to drag on forever. But there is no more climbing ladders for us at our age and we had to leave this job to the professionals. Not an easy thing to do when money is strictly budgeted and we are accustomed to being hands-on. But here they are, sanding, scraping and painting away all week. At the rate they are going they'll be done next week and that is unbelievable to me!

In all fairness this is a job that had never been done on a good schedule. With a two-story house and lots of windows, its not an easy task. It seems to be one of those things that was always easy to put off, and it shows. It will be nice to have it looking spiffy again.

Perhaps this will be the last time we need to worry about this task. Hopefully the paint will outlast both of us....

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Early day

An ambulance call at 4am meant I was awake pretty early today. By the time I got home it was 5:45 and daylight with plenty of noise coming from the trees. There as no going back to sleep.

I like the early morning but that was a bit extreme. Nevertheless I tried to enjoy the blessings of the new day. The light at that hour is so pretty, filtered and soft, casting a glow on the world that is unlike any other time of day. And the quiet of the streets is so nice - very few cars are out and around and even on my busy street it is quiet.

Normally at this time of the year it would be blessedly cool early in the day but today it was downright chilly. I had to grab a sweatshirt to wear in the house once I was dressed for the day. They say it will warm up a bit but with rain coming there is no sun and that makes things seem cool as well.

I think we're heading to RIverhead today for visits to Costco, Lowe's and Targer. Who knows where else we may end up - I'm thinking Michael's at least. With my daughter and her kids here it will be a fun trip. Since losing my shopping buddy last year when my best friend died my trips to Riverhead have been rare occasions. I shall enjoy having company on this one.

Perhaps the rain will hold off. We shall see!

Wednesday, June 17, 2015


Last night we had a rainbow. It had been cloudy on and off all day with occasional sprinkles, and when we got home from the Little League game in Montauk, the big drops of rain were still falling intermittently but the sun was also shining brightly through the clouds and blue sky was evident. As we were walking into the house my husband exclaimed "Look! A rainbow!"

What I thought about later while sitting in the living room was how excited we still get over the sight of a rainbow. I mean, they aren't an every day occurrence, but then again over my lifetime I've seen dozens, so it's not like Haley's Comet or something equally rare. So why the glee over the sight of something like a rainbow?

There is the beauty aspect, which they clearly are. And there is the novelty of the fact that each unique
and different. But my conclusion was that it had nothing to do with those reasons at all, and everything to do with this: it is much more than a rainbow. It's God's promise. It's a special contact with the Almighty. And it always makes me smile.

Tuesday, June 16, 2015


we got plenty of rain yesterday for sure! I didn't hear the totals but it rained for the most part of the day, with periods of real downpours. We needed rain so I didn't mind. Besides-it was day stuck inside anyway because I have my son's children on Mondays and that means I go nowhere. With two-and-a-half year old twins and a 16-month-old There is no chance this old lady is loading them all into car seats and venturing out into the world. So rain was fine-the perfect day for it, really.

Today is abut of a puzzle-possible showers but maybe not. The coming weekend is supposed to be beautiful though! Here's hoping...

Summer arrives this month-officially that is. I know many people are happy about that. I honestly wouldn't mind a few more weeks if Spring though. It arrived so late we've barely had time to enjoy it at all.

The next couple of the are among out most "frantic". I hope I remember to stop andsmelltheflowers along the way. Or the privet, or the other smells of summer. Because that's what it's all about

Monday, June 15, 2015

Rainy Mondays

They are calling for a wash out of a day today. It's too early to know if the entire day will be lost, but Monday's seem the right day for rain.

I remember a few years ago when it rained plenty during the weeks in the summer, but every weekend was beautiful. Another year it only rained during the overnight hours, and who minds that? Of course there have also been summers where only the weekends saw rain, which wasn't quite as handy. We have yet to see what this summer holds in term of weather, but if it only rains on Mondays that's OK with me.

Monday, Monday, can't trust that day. Still one of my favorite songs....


Sunday, June 14, 2015


Summer has suddenly descended.

I wish we had a bit more time to adjust to the temperatures of summer here but it seems as though every year we go from sweaters to tanks tops in a matter of days. And it happened again this year. One night we are at a Little League game with sweatshirts and blankets and three days later at the same ball field I'm sweating in a long-sleeved shirt. Couldn't we just peel one layer at a time for at least a week?

June is a fickle month here on the East End. I had to get out my linen the other day and iron it all so I'm ready. But mentally I'm just not there yet.....

Saturday, June 13, 2015


I find myself overwhelmed with "events" in June.

Of course, some of them are wonderful and I enjoy them tremendously. But June has become the month of fund raising events in East Hampton and I am frankly weary of them. For today, as example, I received no less than four invitation to various fund raising events. Now they are all worthy charities and any of them would have been worth my while to attend, but there is only so much time - and money - that I have to spend on charities. By the time I received the forth one in the mail I threw my hands up and said "Enough - I 'm not going to any of them!" And I'm not.

I find that the social season in East Hampton is pretty much one cocktail party, one big gala, one special opening after another. And I now pick and choose pretty carefully. I cannot possibly spend the kind of money it would take to attend all these things, and besides, I do have a family to spend time with, especially in the summer when the kids are in Little League, visiting from out-of-state, and having end-of-year school concerts to attend. I can only do so many things in a week. And they are my priority.

I wish that a few of these charities would choose to do fund raising events in the fall or winter. Now there are weeks in January and February when I would just LOVE and excuse to get out of the house and party!

Thursday, June 11, 2015


This was one of those weeks when I seriously questioned the health of my brain.

I forgot two important appointments. One was a meeting I was supposed to speak at. The other was a business dinner. What is happening to me?

Of course, in all fairness I had not written either one on the calendar. But then, why had I failed to do THAT? Am I slipping mentally? I have always prided myself on the ability to keep my busy and complicated schedule straight. But now....I wonder. Perhaps I'm getting old. Or maybe it's Alzheimer's disease. I find that things I never would have worried about years ago have taken on new importance at my age. A pulled muscle could be arthritis. Or a slip of memory a serious deterioration. Warning signs? Or simply normal life? Who's to know?

Well, it has been a busy week. But if I find weeks like this one happening more often, hmmmmm.....

Wednesday, June 10, 2015


This was surely a picture perfect day in East Hampton. Perhaps not for someone who wanted to take a swim in the still frigid ocean, but for me-total perfection.

From early morning to what is now nearly dark, there was nothing I would complain about. I loved the clear blue sky, the gentle breeze, and the just right temperature.

East Hampton Village hosted other village officials from all over Suffolk County at a golf outing held at the Maidstone Club. I'm not a golfer but I joined them for dinner there along with the other board members. It was such a treat to hear people all around us talking about how beautiful their surroundings were there at the club. One gentleman, stopping to look out the picture windows on the north side of the clubhouse, stared out over the course as the sun sat low in the sky and said to his golfing partner "Have you ever seen a prettier sight?" His friend said "Well yes-take a look over there" as he motioned to the southern facing windows where the surf rolled to the shore and the greens met the sand.

They were right of course. On a day like today this is just a little taste of heaven...

Tuesday, June 9, 2015


Today is a cloudy one, with showers appearing Avery once in awhile. But this is still a beautiful time of the year in East Hampton.

Last week I was running from a benefit party that I was working to a friend's house for dinner. It was about 7:30 and the sun was low in the western sky. I stopped at home for a brief moment and then headed to Amagansett, choosing to go back roads since it was a Saturday night. I crossed from Accabonac to Egypt and when I approached the end I greeted with a breathtaking view. The Maidstone Clubhouse was in front of me, with the great expanse of green surrounding it. There were some low hanging clouds behind over the ocean, but the thing that was most striking was the light. It was that beautiful, diffused light that we get out here - the one the artists love so much. It was almost ethereal in the way it set the scene with the most beautiful soft colors and muted tones. I was momentarily tempted to stop the car but I was running late so I didn't. I wish I had so I could have memorized it a little better. It reminded me of a painting in an art gallery.

Sometimes you just wish you had a good camera with you.

Monday, June 8, 2015


This is one of my favorite days of the year. This is the day my daughter and her family arrive from Pennsylvania for their long summer visit. Of course there will be many great days ahead with them, but this is the best one. Because today, it's all ahead of us: the hours spent together, the games played, the pool time, the summer moments-all laid out in front of us. It's the future of promise. It's the things to look forward to.

I don't live for tomorrow, I really don't. I try hard to live in the moment. But their time with us is so precious that looking forward is more fun than looking back. Because as the weeks go and I am treasuring every moment, I sadly realize our time is coming to a close. And that's much harder than knowing it's all ahead of us.

When the kids were small I remember taking them home on the last day of school in June and being so excited about the summer ahead when we'd have so many adventures to share. Today that feeling is back again, with yet another generation, thinking about the days ahead with anticipation and joy.

Sunday, June 7, 2015


The first of the local strawberries are here. It's worth raising a flag for I think!

We stopped at the farm stand early yesterday because we knew it was the first day and there wouldn't be an over abundance so we didn't want to miss out. We pulled up and sure enough there they were, piled high in their green quart containers, red berries as plump and perfect as a picture.

I brought 8 quarts home. Two went to our dinner hostess as a gift last night. Two would be cut up and used as snacks for a couple days. And four were immediately turned into strawberry jam, a dozen jars of it sitting on my counter jelling right this very moment. This afternoon they'll go into the freezer, or to other houses (my children will all want some!), and we'll be enjoying it throughout the winter. I may even make some more during the week if I find myself with the time to devote to the process.

My mother made this jam every year and I've missed it. Somehow it seemed like too big a task. Perhaps, shoes too big to fill. But it's time now. I'll think about her when I spoon it onto my English muffin in the morning....

Saturday, June 6, 2015


The weather continues to be amazingly cool for June and after the harsh winter we had it makes me wonder if we are in for a not-so-great summer. It seems as though the weather is very cyclical and things follow closely, so we'll see what it means for the coming months,but we haven't had a cool rainy summer in quite a few years now, so who knows? We can only cross our fingers and wait.

In the meantime we are freezing more than usual at Little League games and having a hard time knowing what to wear every day. Socks or no socks? Sweater? Jacket? Hard to know.

Hopefully it will be beach weather soon. Not for me, who rarely goes to the beach (at least not for sun bathing), but for all those who love it. Especially the kids. I loved the beach when I was a kid! It gave me a freedom and joy I rarely knew back then. And I love seeing my grandkids love it the same way.

June is time for short sleeves and no socks. Hopefully soon...

Friday, June 5, 2015


This week the temperature has not been very "June-like" around here. We actually put the fireplace on a couple times because it was so cold it was hard to comfortably spend time in the house. A Little League game of my grandson's meant full on winter coats for these grandparents, and we weren't alone in out attire! What the heck, weather?

We also had a good dose of rain this week, which was badly needed, but certainly contributed to the cold. Truthfully I like the weather on the chilly side, but most people are not happy. Not being a sun worshiper makes it easier for me to deal!

June is here and we are expecting that perfect, warm weather-comfortable and easy to dress for. I wonder what the future holds for us this summer-hopefully this isn't a taste of things to come. I wouldn't mind a lack of heat and humidity, but too much rain would be a drag and it would be nice to not have to grab a sweater to sit out on the deck. We'll see. Whatever it is, we won't have any control over it!

Thursday, June 4, 2015

My mother's smile

For some reason I was reminded this week of something someone said to me couple years ago. I was going to see someone I hadn't seen in many years-probably over thirty-and as he approached me he said "I would have known you anywhere. You have your mother's smile."

That was one of the nicest things I had heard in a very long time.

My mother had one of the most beautiful smiles ever. She had perfect teeth (before braces made them the norm!) and she smiled a lot. It was friendly, flashing, and infectious, and she used it freely. It was part of what drew people toward her and a huge contributor to her beauty. She was known for that smile and when I was growing up people often said to me "Your mother has the most beautiful smile!"

So I suppose no one could have paid me a greater compliment in terms of physical beauty. Had they said I had her heart it would have been even better!

I miss my mother's smile.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015


I love my irises.

When we moved into this house back in 1979, there was a white fence outside the back door that was lined with lavender irises. I loved them. They are short lived and only out for a short time, but they are so stately and beautiful when that are in bloom.

Over the years we have made many alterations to our home and yard. First we added on to the back of the house, which necessitated the removal of the fence, so we carefully replanted the irises to another spot beside the building.

Then years later we decided to create a "barrier" garden to give us a little privacy from the busy road we live on. We dug up a huge portion of the side yard and began to slowly fill it with bushes and trees, hedging it in to create a quiet spot between the driveway and house. The irises eventually were once again moved, and now they punctuate this garden area with their lovely blossoms every year at this time. They do a nice job of bridging the gap between the lilac and hydrangea blooms and I am always thrilled when the first one bursts open in late May.

I think by now these flowers must be about 70 years old, at least. I love my irises!

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

The change

So I usually think of June as the "change" month. It's the time when we go from pleasant, warm weather to hot and humid. And the time we go from bright, spring green colors to the deeper, richer colors of summer. It's fitting thatboth graduations and weddings seem to take place so often in June! Change, and beginnings, are what June is about.

For me it means adjusting to my new schedule, with my part-time job ending and more hours in my week. Should I look for another part-time job, or just enjoy the time I have, with less money to spend! I don't quite know yet.

Family arrives soon. The busiest weeks of the year are fast approaching. We have lots of things to look forward to this summer,from baby and bridal showers to a family wedding. And of course, lots of family.

Change is not always easy. But in June it's always welcome.

Monday, June 1, 2015


So here we are in June and we're finally getting some of the rain we should have had in April and May. Today is dark, rainy, and very chilly! I closed all the windows first thing this morning and grabbed a flannel shirt from my closet to ward off the cold.

Things are so pretty right now in East Hampton. The lilacs are gone but the azaleas are in bloom and many ornamental trees are beautiful.  This past weekend I got my pots planted on the deck and bought some pretty hanging pots for around the back door. We still have a lot of work to do in the yard to repair damage done by the severe winter-we had to pull some bushes and now have to find replacements. I put one rhododendron in and we will need at least three more of something in addition. It's a never-ending process, landscaping!

June will soon be very busy as the family from out-of-state arrives in another week and we'll be spending lots of time with family through June and July. It's a great time of the year. Today may be a bit dreary, but we need the rain. And good times are ahead of us!